Mutual Appreciation

A lot of relationships evolve from or into an imbalance. One person likes the other person more. One person wants to spend more time with the other. One person is always chasing after the other. One person is always keeping the other at arms length, putting up a succession of boundaries, fences. One person always reaching out, the other always sliding away. That kind of disharmony is doom for a relationship. Many times its over before it begins. Technology can exacerbate this discrepancy. Being able to be in constant contact with someone creates the desire to be, which almost never deepens feelings but undermines them.

My connection with Nicole is relatively new but since the beginning there's been a sense of balance. Not only with our feelings for each other but with the amount of time we spend together and how much we talk and text. It feels even. It feels equal. I don't feel chased or like chasing. When we get together its because of a mutual desire to see each other but we also need and want time apart to recharge and build up that romantic magnetism. It creates an environment ripe for extensive emotional returns and little to no resentment.

It's refreshing. I'm very happy and grateful.

Romance can sometimes come in extremes, overwhelming personalities and tumultuous emotions can be appealing. But ultimately what you gain in intensity you lose in comfort and ease. Relationships shouldn't be a constant struggle they should be mostly easy. If you find yourself in a situation where you feel like you're doing a substantial amount of work it may be a sign its not working.